Interesting thing happened today (Commentary)

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So, I go to a church every Sunday, and during the sermon, I go downstairs to help with Junior Church, and also to help with the food so that it doesn't catch on fire, spoil, etc. So, I happened to watch one of the youths of the church (Who I will refer to as the teacher), who is one of the sons of one of the three pastors there and is going to be a minister someday, was teaching the class, and his girlfriend, who was a daughter of one of the other pastors there, was his helper (and I'll refer to her as the helper).

Everything was fine until the teacher decided for the kids to play Musical Chairs. It ended being a disaster, with three kids unhappy. But this is why I chose this. One of the kids was unfairly called "out" in the game. I watched and saw that this little boy had sat down first in the chair, but the teacher didn't see it and awarded the other kid safe. This caused this poor kid to cry, repeating the phrase "I sat down first!", and it made me feel bad, because he's the foster kid of a good friend of mine at church who I help my dad mow his lawn every two weeks. But what made me feel surprised is that instead of doing the proper thing of going over and trying to calm him down, comforting him, they immediately began threatening to take away the candy he got in class, his craft time, his chance to play in the next game, and for him to be brought upstairs to his parents.

First of all, Ladies and Gentlemen, there is a huge difference between being too soft, too harsh, and being perfect with a combination of both, knowing when to do either. And I can assure you both the teacher and the helper were too harsh here. Secondly, you don't go threatening kids with stuff at first. You try to show compassion and understanding, and if they keep being a brat for too long, THEN you can say, "If you don't stop, I'm afraid I'll have to take away this."

So, instead of properly disciplining this kid and doing the right thing by being firm and bringing him to his parents, they just force him to sit in a corner, bawling his eyes out as he is forced to sit there and watch the other kids play. I'm thinking, "What the hell is wrong with you two?" Of course, I held my tongue, for I am, in short, good friends with the two. But as the kid starts to calm down, the teacher makes the stupid mistake of saying this, "All right, let's see who can sit down first!" OH, GREAT JOB, TEACHER; NOW YOU GET THE KID TO START SCREAMING AND CRYING "BUT I SAT DOWN FIRST!!" .......AGAIN. -__-

So, now, it gets to the point where he is getting way too loud, and the teacher looks at the helper and says, "Hey, take him upstairs to his parents," To WHICH THE HELPER ACTUALLY SAID, "He's way too loud to do that; so, what am I supposed to do with him?" This legitimately pissed me off; how dare she talk about this kid like he's just another problem she has to deal with and it's so inconvenient for her. I mean, you're the helper! It's your JOB to take care of these kids too, and you're gonna say that about him when he's already crying and he's in the same room with you. Now, it may not seem that bad to you and to them, but I've taken classes about child psychology, and simple phrases like that can impact a child's self-esteem, his bonds, and his personality dramatically. In the end, they gave up and just ended up shoving the kid into the nursery, to let them deal with him. I couldn't take this anymore, and literally walked outside, and waiting the last 15 minutes of the service at my mother's car.

So, why am I doing a commentary about this when it looks like a rant so far? Well, I happened to be on Facebook and a couple of hours ago, I just found out on this very same day, the teacher and the helper have gone from "BF-GF" to "engaged to be married." To that, I have only 3 words to state.

THEY. AREN'T. READY.

They aren't ready to become a couple and have kids of their own if this is how they treat kids of other parents. Because, if you're not gonna properly discipline the child, take control of the situation, treating the child not like shit, and handle it instead of dumping it onto someone else, what makes you think you're gonna be a great parent... or teacher for that matter? Kids are a big responsibility, whether it's parenting, teaching, camp counselor, etc., and if you do not know how to treat a child right, you are in no condition to do any of those things. It makes me mad cause I was a kid who ended up being in the same situation from Kindergarten through halfway of 3rd grade, by teachers who didn't understand how I acted and who I was, so it upsets me to see other children like that go through it. In the end, congratulations to these two on getting married and I'm glad they're happy. But I still stand on that. THEY. AREN'T. READY. PERIOD.

-MrAwesomeMatty
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killjoySG's avatar
Kids need patience and compassion, not this.